In the first part of this series, I talked about how we can keep balance between our multiple roles and spirituality. This week, here are the concluding tips to it. Bismillah, let’s dig in.
Make Conscious Efforts.
It is important to make conscious efforts, strive and be content with the fact that for this present situation and new reality this is how to achieve. Because a time is coming when you are going to have more time on your hands again, you are going to get to that point again soon in sha Allaah; when you’ll have to reschedule and rearrange. It is important in our quiet time to engage with the Qur’an. You may not be reciting, just listen to it, more often than not, it is better to use the earpiece. Plugged in, the connection feels more. Even if it is ten, twenty minutes, just make effort.
Meanwhile, make du’a.
That’s top of the list. Make du’a for what you want to do or achieve. Ask Allah for help and ease. It’s fine to feel content and safe, it is a grace from Allah because there are people who are agitated for no reason, so alhamdulillah if you feel safe and good, it’s just that one should not feel complacent and confident that, yes I’ve gotten there… No, one should keep pushing, keep pushing and keep pushing.
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Task Yourself to Read Books.
If you can’t do madrasah now, refresh by reading books. Reading does a lot.A quote says: “Choose your books and friends wisely, your books influence your thought, your friends influence your attitude”. So, yes keep reading. You can choose to read a book monthly but be careful on the type of books you pick. Whilst you’re reading, you’re reflecting and opening up. So, adding all of these up, in shaa Allah we’ll able to be productive.
Then, of course, companions.
Our companions are also very important. Allah in His infinite Mercy and Wisdom has told us that our eeman will keep fluctuating, that’s why the Prophet SAW stressed on keeping good company so that when we are low we can quickly pick each other up. So, sometimes it may even be that we need to reach out and speak to someone. If that’s all you need at a particular time, by all means, please reach out. So at that time you’re feeling lethargic, you can slowly but surely pick up again.
Set targets, keep track.
So, sisters, these are the regular and normal phases of our lives. Yes, some point we feel high as if we are there, sometimes we ask ourselves am I even worthy of…, what I’ve I done exactly to…, but the most important thing is for us to remain on track. We shouldn’t despair, lose hope nor feel content that yes we’ve gotten to the point we want. You know of course we should keep aiming for excellence, we keep striving and that’s the idea behind having targets. What do you want to achieve in the next 3 days? Then go back and track your progress. All of these and most importantly, du’a. Allaah says: “If my servant comes to me walking, I go to him running…”. So, move towards Him.
And may Ar-Rahman make the attainment of true excellence easy for us all. May the little and substantial of our efforts weigh heavily on our scales of goodies. Aameen.
Sideeqah Tunde-Lawal is a legal practitioner during the day and a gentle guide/counsellor at other times.
She is passionate about mentoring young persons especially girls and personal spiritual development for sisters.
And she runs a book club (Lag Muslimah Reads) in Lagos for Muslim women. She can be reached here